Confession time: since the tv show Survivor premiered around 2000, I doubt that I have missed half a dozen episodes. I enjoy competition and strategy, and the show at different times has been a bond between me and both of my sons. There are things about the show that have driven me crazy. In particular, when one person is obviously the outstanding contestant physically and as a person, he almost never wins, because other contenders are so desperate not to have to compete against him at the end. On the other hand, there are few more dramatic scenes on television than when a contestant who thinks he is on top of the Survivor world is blindsided and voted out. Wokeness hurt the show for a while around 2020, but that era seems to be over. And this season, which ended last Wednesday with the victory of young lawyer Kyle Fraser, featured some very interesting new departures that might, repeat might, say something good about where our society is heading. There are obviously spoilers coming, but I would be amazed if I had any readers who 1) haven't watched the show AND 2) still have plans to do so.
The changes involved two relationships--not romantic ones this time--between two pairs of characters: firefighter Joe Hunter and Ph.D. candidate Eva Erikson--the other two members, with Kyle Fraser, of the final three--and Fraser and software engineer Kamilla Karthigesu, the last of the final five, who lost the fire challenge to Eva. Eva described herself throughout the show as autistic. I don't know a lot about autism and I'm not going do dispute her self-diagnosis, but she did not show what I think is a common symptom of autism, a lack of empathy--she had a keen sense of what made other people tick. She has however a tendency towards emotional meltdown that was very much on display on the show especially in one of the first and the last episodes. In the midst of one of the first episodes--maybe even the first, I'm too lazy to check--she collapsed and began sobbing uncontrollably.
Joe, the fire captain, stood out from the beginning not only as a physically strong person, but as the kind of rock-solid guy you would want as your army sergeant. And when Eva collapsed, Joe, who was not even on her tribe, walked over to her and began comforting her. She eventually snapped out of it. In the second, post-merge phase of the game, they became the core of the alliance that dominated the proceedings, and which also included Kyle. They trusted each other completely and rewarded one another's trust.
Eventually--although no one ever said this in so many words--we learned what had moved Joe to help Eva in her distress. Joe told the audience and some of his fellow players that several years ago, his sister had been killed by her domestic partner. He had fought with his sister on the telephone on the night before she died, and he felt tremendous guilt over that and over his failure to protect her. I think he must have seen his sister in Eva's distress, although he never said so. And in the last episode, he came to her help again. Kyle had won the last challenge among the last four contestants, which gave him the right to pick which of the other three would automatically go to the end with him. The other two would face off in a fire making challenge, which has become one of the most dramatic events of every season. He picked Joe, because, he said, he had told Joe that he would do so if he won that last challenge. Keeping one's word, needless to say, is not often a priority among Survivor contestants. That left Eva to face that challenge with Kamilla. Using their permitted tools--a machete and a piece of flint, which seems actually to be magnesium--they both began practicing their fire building, and Eva melted down again. This time her emotional collapse was complete--sobbing and writhing on the ground (which the producers unfortunately did not show.) Drawn by her cries, both Joe and Kyle went to her and offered to surrender their automatic spots in the last three to her and enter the fire challenge themselves. She steadfastly refused, and eventually got a grip on herself and managed to make a practice fire.
The second relationship between Kyle and Kamilla was fascinating in a different way--it was a secret. They formed an early alliance but spent as little time together as possible. All these contestants, it seemed, had been watching the show since childhood and had learned a lot about it. Tight couples usually become targets because the emotional support they give each other is so valuable. Kyle and Kamilla provided each other with a lot of key intelligence and also orchestrated a clever coup against another contender in one of the last weeks. And then, on the eve of the final immunity challenge that would put one person in charge of the game, they had an amazing conversation. Kyle told Kamilla that if he won, he would NOT select her as the second automatic final three contestant, because in the final jury vote (the jury is composed of the last 8 people to be eliminated), the same people would want to vote for both of them, their votes would split, and the third contestant--either Joe or Eva--would win. And Kamilla, to my amazement, didn't complain at all--she said she completely understood and implied, I think, that she would have done the same thing.
The fire challenge did not disappoint. Kamilla, who entered it as a favorite, could not get a fire going at all, while Eva progressed rapidly and soon had a real blaze going that seemed certain to reach the string suspended a few feet above the fire, burn through it, and win her the challenge. But on the verge of victory, her fire was checked by gusts of wind, and fell way back. Suddenly Eva began to melt down hysterically again--but everyone, even Kamilla, encouraged her to hang in there. Kamilla did get a fire going but it never really took off, and Eva managed to build hers back up and burn through the string. Kamilla became the eighth and last jury member.
At the final tribal council Eva announced that she was not simply a hockey referee, but a Ph.D. candidate at Brown, and Kyle admitted that he was a lawyer, not a teacher. This implied that Joe, a 45-year old fire captain from Sacramento with a wife and family, would in the long run need the $1 million first prize more than either of them. (AI tells me that Sacramento fire captains can make as much as $140,000 a year, but average $81,000.) Such people usually get voted off before the end because the other contestants fear their appeal, but Joe had not. Yet in the final vote, Kyle got 5 votes, Eva 2, and Joe only 1. I think that more than anything else, that vote was generational. Most of the contestants were Millennials or Gen Z, and Joe was only one of two late-wave Gen Xers, the second of whom provided his only vote.
Survivor is, above all, a high-stakes game, and no one makes it onto it without understanding that winning is the goal. This year, however, winning was not the only thing that mattered. Joe in particular made that point by helping Eva, and Kyle and Kamilla understood that there tight bond could only go so far. In general the contestants showed more mutual respect than I ever remember seeing before. The sample is much too small to conclude that values are changing in society at large--but I hope that that might turn out to be the case. I am sorry that Joe didn't win, but the others were worthy.